Have you begun to notice negative relationship patterns showing up in your love life?
Perhaps it’s the same argument over and over again that ends with one of you sleeping on the couch.
On one of my webinars, a woman described her frustration with her unhealthy relationship pattern like this:
“I have been with a guy 7 years and we have broken up and gotten back together 200 times…
Our negative relationship pattern is that when he’s not happy with how things are going, he breaks up with me, and then I chase him and beg him to get back together… Our private joke is “You’re the person I want to argue with for the rest of my life! That’s how you know it’s true love…”
We’re not happy when we’re not together, so how do we change our relationship pattern after so long?”
Usually, by the time a couple calls me for relationship coaching, one partner is becoming increasingly insecure and demanding and the other is feeling increasingly trapped and withdrawing…
…and if their recurring relationship issues left unchecked, often the only way they deal with the pain of emotional disconnection is by shutting down.
When this happens the relationship enters (what I refer to as) an Ice Age… with both partners in self-protection mode pretending that they don’t feel or need anything. Left unattended, the relationship is doomed to freeze to death.
Fortunately, it’s not that difficult to thaw out the love and create a deep bond if both parties are willing to do the work together.
How To Change Unhealthy Relationship Patterns:
You can change relationship patterns – quickly and permanently in 5 steps. I’ve witnessed years of relationship conditioning undone in an hour of intentional conversation and I’ve learned that few things are as emotionally exquisite to witness than two people doing the deep, loving work of breaking longtime unhealthy relationship patterns.
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In Week 4 of my online Relationship Coaching Program, I created 3 powerful videos and 3 exercises designed to help you identify, understand, interrupt and end your unhealthy relationship patterns for good.