40 years together/ 1 year divorced. We were both in a bad place with each other.
Maybe it was meant to be – but I enrolled for the course, and through some very limited emailing, he said he was interested in doing it as well.
So we have completed this course in tandem, but have called on our experiences from when we were together. We have been meeting weekly to complete the exercises as best we can, given that we are no longer together.
The course initiated some very intense, in-depth genuine conversations – probably more open and honest conversations in the last 7 weeks than we had over our 40 year relationship put together.
The tools provided have been instrumental in allowing us to communicate, connect and hear each other, probably for the first time in a very long time, if ever.
We have covered pretty much every subject and issue that was a relationship killer for us – and we also pondered on how much time and effort was wasted and lost across all those years.
It has brought closure to a lot of issues that were bumps in the road for a long time, but which became insurmountable mountains by the end and caused the marriage to breakdown.
Yesterday we even agreed that had we had these tools, and known how to use them, it could have probably saved our marriage. And we fantasized how good our time together could have been, and what our retirement now might have been like.
I suggested a get-together with our grown children and everyone was keen. It all fell into place very easily. We all met up last weekend down in Byron Bay to see a favourite family band, and then spent the weekend together (a first since he and I separated nearly 5 years ago). And it was lovely.
Everyone commented on how harmonious and relaxed it all was – none of the angst they were used to. And I think I can speak for both of us, that it was very calm and enjoyable.
We have both learned a lot about each other and about ourselves through the program, and I would like to thank you for having the insight to put this program together.
The ability to communicate and connect should be incorporated into the schooling system to assist with the emotional development of young people.
It is invaluable in being understood and understanding another person – be it in relationships/friendships or other. And even more invaluable connecting.