We were committed to our marriage which had turned us into strained roommates. The passion and love had pretty much gone.

We now have tools to short-circuit our breakdowns and turn them into breakthroughs.

I now get at a deeper level that my wife stands for my well being whereas in the past it seemed she just kept annoying me.

My wife and I now have more power with the turtle and hailstorm distinction. We simply distinguish this and we do not have to stay angry.

We get off it much more quickly.