Hi Bruce, I entered this program ready to grow and change the way I usually behave in relationships, and I feel like I have learnt exactly how to do that in the past few weeks.
The most beneficial tool to us so far has been the communication skill you taught us in week 2. We started using it, I learned that before we broke up he had been feeling as if this relationship was THE ONE and that scared him. I had no idea that he considered me THE ONE!
When I first asked him to do this program with me eight weeks ago, we had just broken up and he agreed to only as a means of figuring out what had gone wrong. He said that we could reevaluate in two months and see if we were actually compatible. Of course, those beginning weeks were horrible and filled with fear that he would leave at any moment, but what you taught us about Hailstorms and Turtles and their specific needs motivated me to stop myself from acting out whenever I felt insecure.
It was amazing how safe that conversation made me feel, and we definitely could not have done it without everything you taught us! I can easily imagine a similar conversation in the past building up into accusations and conflict, so I cannot thank you enough for helping us avoid that. I kept this quote at the back of my mind: “Do not sacrifice what you want most for what you want right now.”
Although we still have a long way to go, we’re definitely loving and connected now. This is a HUGE improvement from the pain we were both in just eight weeks ago.
Thank you so much Bruce, for guiding us through this and for being such a phenomenal person and coach. I love what you do for people and there really should be more people teaching these essential life skills. I’ll really miss talking to you!
Thank you once again, my gratitude is beyond words.