The Love At First Fight coaching program
The online relationship repair course backed by scientific research.
Fix Your Relationship Problems and Wake Up Happy Together…
in 7 weeks or less, even if you’re the only one trying.
Introducing the online alternative to marriage counseling.
Need to save your marriage or fix a relationship?
Our 7-week online relationship repair program provides step-by-step solutions to fix your relationship troubles so you can start being happy together.
PRESENTED BY BRUCE MUZIK AS SEEN ON
How To Fix A Relationship & How To Save Your Marriage
from the privacy of your home, without expensive couples therapy
Hi there. I’m Bruce Muzik.
If you’re reading this page, then I imagine that your relationship is no longer the romance it once used to be. Perhaps you’re feeling frustrated, desperate, alone or even afraid.
You’re in the right place. Read this letter all the way to the end and I’ll show you how to fix things between you and your partner before they go from bad to worse.
Bruce Muzik – Relationship Expert
Do any of these
describe your relationship
describe your relationship
- You walk on eggshells, tiptoeing around sensitive topics
- It feels like there’s a “fuzzy” communication problem whenever you talk
- Arguments over small things explode into heated fights
- Your sex life has lost its spark
- Your partner has withdrawn or shut down emotionally
- You feel blamed and criticized – like nothing you do is ever enough
- Your spouse has angry outbursts and can be demanding
- Your spouse doesn’t really listen to you
- You’re struggling to forgive a betrayal of trust (e.g. an affair)
If you answered YES while reading the list above,
the first thing I want you to know is that…
RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS ARE NORMAL. IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOU WERE NEVER TAUGHT A ‘RELATIONSHIPS 101’ CLASS AT SCHOOL.
Here’s what you need to know about how to fix or save a relationship…
Your Relationship Will Go Through 3 Stages, But…
you’ll probably stay stuck at the 2nd (unless you get help).
1. The Romance Stage
This is when we fall in love – two ME’s dreaming of the possibility of a WE. We feel excited. Being with our partner makes the world feel brighter. This stage lasts up to 2 years.
2. The Power Struggle
The rose tinted glasses are abruptly flung off. We try to change each other in an attempt to get our needs met. We fight – for our partner’s attention or for our independence and freedom. Almost ALL divorces and breakups happen here.
3. Mature Love
Finally you feel like a WE. You stop trying to change each other and accept (even love) each other’s flaws. Your connection feel secure. Commonly, couples in this stage work on a mutually meaningful project together.
Most couples NEVER make it to the Mature Love stage.
They break up in the Power Struggle stage.
If you’re reading this page, your relationship is most likely
stuck in the Power Struggle stage and…
What you do next is critical…
Don’t Make These 3 Deadly Mistakes
That Lead To Divorce or a Breakup
That Lead To Divorce or a Breakup
Here’s What Can Repair Your Relationship
(this works for 90% of couples)
YOU DON’T NEED COUPLES THERAPY
Unless you’re suffering from a deep childhood psychological trauma, you don’t need couples therapy to fix your relationship.
Besides, if you’re anything like me, you don’t want to be sitting on some stuffy therapist’s couch telling your darkest secrets to a stranger who is taking notes about what’s wrong with you. You are not broken.
Not to mention the fact that traditional marriage therapy has an embarrassingly high failure rate – greater than 70%.
I help hundreds of couples each year and here’s what I’ve found works for most couples:
LOVE AT FIRST FIGHT
The online alternative to marriage counseling that will show you
how to fix a relationship or how to save your marriage in 7 weeks
or less, even if you’re the only one trying.
how to fix a relationship or how to save your marriage in 7 weeks
or less, even if you’re the only one trying.
So, What Exactly Is
The Coaching Program?
The Coaching Program?
The coaching program is a 7-week home-study relationship repair program backed by scientific research.
It is an online alternative to couples counseling delivered via weekly online training videos and downloadable workbooks.
You also get 7 group coaching calls with me (Bruce) so you are guaranteed to get help with your unique situation.
You’ll learn proven communication tools and conflict resolution strategies to get you connected and on the same page again.
You can participate in your own time, from anywhere in the world, and turn things around even if you’re the only one trying.
The program begins on September 01, 2018.
Is This Course
Right For You?
Right For You?
- There’s a constant tension between you both…
- You walk on eggshells, tip-toeing around sensitive topics…
- Little arguments escalate into full blown fights…
- You can’t talk about how you’re feeling without communcation breaking down or sparking an argument…
- Issues don’t get resolved, and you sweep your problems under the carpet…
- You don’t fight at all (this is the #1 predictor of divorce)…
- Your partner withdraws, goes “numb” or shuts down emotionally…
- Your partner angrily pursues you, leaving you feeling criticized…
- You feel judged, not accepted and like your partner is trying to change you…
- You’re wrestling with trust issues or forgiveness after a betrayal…
- Your sex life has lost its spark (or non-existent)…
- One of you has said some variation of “I love you, but I’m not in love with you…”
- You can’t count on your partner to have your back and provide emotional support…
- One of you is not fully committed, has left or threatened to leave…
Counted one or more?
Then this program can help you.
How The Coaching Program Works
The first session of the Coaching Program is
available the moment you complete your registration.
STEP #1: WATCH THE WEEKLY VIDEO TRAINING
Each Saturday you’ll receive access to new relationship repair training videos that will teach you communication skills, proven strategies and tools to get you both on the same page.
STEP #2: DO THE WEEKLY EXERCISES
Your implementation workbook will guide you step-by-step through a series of powerful exercises and conversations that will get you on the same page.
STEP #3: TALK WITH ME & GET HELP
Finally, once a week we’ll connect on our live group mentoring call together. You ask me questions and I provide solutions tailored to your specific relationship situation.
What You Can Expect 7 Weeks From Now…
Start being happy together…
Our relationship repair curriculum:
The curriculum I’ll lead you though is designed from the most up-to-date research by the world’s smartest relationship scientists in the fields of:
- Attachment theory,
- Personality theory,
- Developmental psychology, and
- The couples therapy with the highest success rate.
I’ve distilled all this research into tools and strategies that are easy to apply with your partner.
More importantly, they just plain work.
What You Will Learn In Only 7 Weeks
(Click on the “+” below to learn more about each week)
How To Reconnect Emotionally
so you no longer see each other as adversaries…
Remember when you first fell in love? You felt close and conversations just flowed effortlessly. You didn’t need communication techniques – you just talked. You were connected. And it was fun. Feeling closely connected to each other is the holy grail of a happy, fulfilled marriage or relationship.
When your emotional connection gets lost, so does that sense of safety and security that goes hand in hand with it. You begin to feel more like adversaries than teammates.
Quickly, little arguments explode into full-blown wars when your connection feel threatened and before you know it, you’re sitting in a lawyers office signing divorce papers.
In Week 1 you’ll RE-CONNECT, open each other’s hearts, and learn how to stay connected.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 1:
- 3 counter-intuitive connection strategies that take less than 3 minutes a day, yet will bond you emotionally together like superglue.
- Discover your relationship blind spot – the unconscious relationship pattern that sabotages your love life, so it doesn’t creep up on you and destroy your relationship.
- How to never fear your partner’s anger again. You’ll learn the truth about anger, its hidden purpose and how to calm your partner (and yourself) when they’re angry.
- Discover the #1 reason cited for divorce and how to protect your relationship from it.
- 7 mindsets that securely connected couples use. Adopt these and you’ll turn your relationship into a safe-haven in no time.
- How to talk to your partner about the program so that they feel inspired to participate with you.
COMMUNICATION SKILLS THAT STOP FIGHTING
so you can resolve your differences and get on the same page…
There were no “Communication 101” classes at high school, so just like trying to ride a bicycle blindfolded, we crash and burn when we try to talk about “issues” with our spouse.
If you haven’t been taught communication skills for couples, years of hard-earned trust and connection can be destroyed with one thoughtless sentence yelled in anger…
…or one stone cold silence and look of contempt.
Lack of communication skills is the #1 reason my clients cite for their relationship troubles.
Using the tools you learn in Week 2 of the Coaching Program, instead of bickering, arguing or fighting like cat and dog, you’ll resolve your differences and finally feel heard and understood – perhaps for the first time ever.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 2:
- How to get your partner to listen, without begging or manipulating them.
- A hostage negotiators technique that will de-escalate any argument in seconds.
- 3 simple words that will make your lover see you as the only person in the world who truly understands them.
- A word-for-word script to soothe your partner when they are upset, hurt, afraid or angry. This will give you magic-like powers to turn any tense difficult situation into an opportunity to connect.
How To Feel Secure Together
so you can relax into being your loving selves again…
Conflict won’t stop until you both feel emotionally safe and secure around each other.
A bit like walking through a minefield, when your relationship feels unsafe and insecure, you can’t fully relax because you sense that your partner might not be there for you.
Always on the lookout for a potential threat, you stop being your usual happy self. Instead, you protect your heart from being rejected, abandoned or engulfed by your partner. After a while, this protective state becomes the norm and you forget to relate as lovers.
In Week 3 you’ll create a safe haven inside your relationship. As your need for security and safety get met, so you begin to relax into feeling comfortable – being ‘happy you’ again.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 3:
- Discover how you unintentionally ‘leak’ safety and trust out of your relationship… and how to plug the holes so you both feel emotionally safe around each other.
- A sure-fire way to stop your partner being clingy or demanding, and actually offer you space and time to recharge after an emotional moment.
- Exactly what to say and do to lure your withdrawn partner back out of their shell when they retreat and shut you out during an argument.
- Your Needs: We all have emotional needs that can only be met by our lover. When they go unmet, we feel unsure of our relationship and begin pushing and pulling to get them met. In week 3, you’ll discover your relationship needs (and your partner’s) and inspire your partner to meet them for you. When you experience having your relationship needs met, you’ll fall deeper in love than when you first met.
How To Resolve Conflict & Heal Old Hurts
so you can stop the fighting and start connecting…
Most couples have one or two unresolved issues that they tiptoe around and just can’t seem to get past. Often, these issues become sensitive topics that spark finger pointing, defensiveness and explosive fights at the mere mention of them.
Left unresolved, these volatile issues trigger fight after fight, destroying your trust, intimacy and emotional connection.
Commonly, one partner withdraws into their shell while the other desperately chases them in an attempt to get them to respond. I call these two archetypes the Hailstorm and the Turtle.
This pattern doesn’t have a happy ending. Eventually, both partners withdraw to protect themselves from further hurt, making closeness and intimacy impossible. Then it’s just a matter of time before the relationship ends or one partner has an affair.
In week 4, we dig deep and discover your recurring patterns of conflict and put an end to them once and for all. No more walking on eggshells around each other.
You’ll have conversations with your partner that will stop the hurt and the destructive cycle of withdrawing and chasing.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 4:
- Discover which long-forgotten childhood experiences are at the root of your relationship struggles (even if you had a happy childhood). This new awareness will spark empathy and compassion in both you and your spouse.
- You’ll master a step-by-step proven system that stops recurring patterns of conflict dead in their tracks before they spiral into a blowout (this is a goodie).
- Heal old hurts (that you may have forgiven, but cannot let go of) so trust can finally return to your relationship.
- Learn to use conflict as an opportunity to connect and grow an unshakable foundation of trust together.
Appreciate Your Differences
so you stop trying to change each other and finally feel accepted as you are…
Everyone is different… and that’s a good thing in a relationship.
You’ve probably heard that opposites attract, right?
It’s true. Like opposite poles of a magnet, we tend to be most attracted to someone with opposite personality traits to us. Some of these traits complement you, but others can drive you crazy! Are you nodding yet?
If your partner doesn’t understand and appreciate how you’re different, these differences can lead to hurtful fights that leave you feeling misunderstood, judged and alone.
In Week 5, you’ll both take three illuminating personality quizzes designed to give you insight into yourself and your partner that you’ll wish you’d known years ago.
Finally your partner will understand and appreciate the way you are and stop trying to change you.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 5:
- You’ll be introduced to 3 well researched personality typing systems that will decode the hidden meanings behind you partner’s actions (knowing this will make you appear “psychic” to your partner and they’ll begin to trust you to understand them better than they understand themselves).
- Learn why they need time alone and you don’t (or vice versa), why they like to plan and you’re the spontaneous one (or vice-versa), why they withdraw and you get demanding (or vice versa).
- Learn the most meaningful way to communicate love to your partner. If you don’t know this, they’ll never feel loved no matter how many times you tell them or show them.
- Discover exactly when to approach your partner for sex (and when not to). This will save you being rejected and make sure your sex life stays passionate.
- You’ll get tons of fascinating insight into yourself and your partner that you’d probably never learn any other way…
How To Restore Trust & Feel Close Again
so you can fully forgive the past and safely open up to intimacy…
Allowing your partner to know you intimately is the entry fee to a rich emotional life, passionate sex life and deeply satisfying relationship.
In practice, actually being that vulnerable requires that you risk rejection or abandonment.
And that is terrifying for most of us.
So we hide our authentic selves from each other to avoid taking that risk.
Yet if we don’t take that risk, we’ll never be known deeply, never be able to fully express ourselves and never feel fully alive.
In week 6 you’ll break through the biggest barrier to intimacy – being vulnerable. If you struggle to share your feelings with your partner, you’ll learn how to access your inner landscape and share it in a way that skyrockets trust and safety and bonds you emotionally like super-glue.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 6:
- The #1 thing you need to talk about if you want to feel deeply connected (no, it’s not sex).
- How to get your spouse to open up and share their deepest feelings, fears and fantasies with you, so that you stop drifting further apart and begin building an unshakable bridge between you.
- How to cultivate a culture of honesty and acceptance, so you both feel safe to be yourselves with each other, without having to pretend you’re someone you’re not…
- How to get in touch with your feelings and share them in a way that builds intimacy in seconds – even if you have no idea what you’re feeling in the moment.
Sex, Passion & Partnership
re-ignite sexual passion and become an invincible team…
While it’s common for sexual passion to simmer down a little over the years, if your sex life has become boring or lifeless, the “Sex, Passion & Partnership” videos in the Video Vault are for you.
You’ll discover exactly how to revive an uninspiring sex life and create powerful sexual chemistry with your partner… on demand.
Now that issues of connection and safety are no longer an issue in your relationship, we’ll then look at the next important steps your relationship must take. Finally, we’ll wrap up the program sharing our success stories with each other on the final Relationship Repair call.
This call is always fun because by the time you’ve gotten this far is the program, your relationship feels safer, more loving, and your spouse feels like a team mate.
Here’s a small sample of what you’ll learn in Week 7:
- The 2 ways of making love that are toxic to intimacy (most couples fall into these 2 traps) and how to have the kind of sex that truly fulfills.
- How to approach your lover for sex without being rejected, even if it feels like it’s been years since s/he was interested…
- The difference between how men and women become sexually aroused (this is not obvious to most men).
- Discover how independence can actually prevent your relationship growing into a team and bring it screeching to a halt. Then, you’ll learn what lies beyond independent relationships and how to take yours there.
Stop Fighting, Start Connecting
“More connected & committed than ever…”
“Bruce, we are now more connected and committed than ever. Here’s a testimonial: If you need a path to follow when you’ve lost your way with the love of your life, this is for you!”
“We are kind and more loving…”
“We were stuck in a cycle of power struggles, not being kind to each other. Since the course we have very little conflict. We are kind and more loving and romantic too!”
The Coaching Program Starts On September 01, 2018
Click each tab below to hear success stories from past participants…
“I was planning to give him the (divorce) papers…”
Hit PLAY Below To Listen To Fabiana and Romario’s Story
“When we started the program I felt it was my last chance for my marriage.
I was seeing a counselor and he encouraged me to join this program, but I was ready for a divorce. I was not feeling loved. In my mind, we were just two roommates. He is the sweetest guy in the world but there was no romance. I was planning to give him the (divorce) papers to sign.
I did the course anyway and in Week 2 we had an Ah-Ha moment…
Romario finally understands how to connect with my heart. He said the scales fell off of his eyes and he could see how he was not loving me. Since that day he’s starting to love me full force.
Since then I’ve felt so loved and I fell in love with him again. I just want to be together with him for the rest of my life.
Basically you saved our marriage and we’re in the honeymoon again. It is amazing. I don’t have the words to express how happy I am in my marriage right now.
I learned so much from the coaching calls with others. I like the format of the program and the exercises. It really helped us understand each other and to connect deeper. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate everything that you did for us.”
“My fiance told me our relationship was over…”
Hit PLAY Below To Listen To Daniel and Aska’s Story
“We were engaged, but had a huge fight. He (my fiance) told me that he wanted me to move out and that our relationship was over.
BRUCE: So you went from being broken up when you started the program to now he’s taking you out to dinner on your birthday and he’s sharing vulnerable things he hadn’t shared before and you guys are learning to connect slowly and securely again.
Yes I feel like that’s fair. At the birthday dinner, he said, “I don’t want to lose you to somebody else.”
We’re in a very good spot right now. We went out to a movie yesterday. We had dinner. He took me out for my birthday as well and we talked a lot and I feel like me opening up has really changed the way that he has opened up and I give him space and I know what he needs because he’s a turtle and I’m the hail-storm.
It’s a huge improvement from where we were. So thank you so much. I feel so much better. I’ve been through a lot but every time I would listen to your videos or I’d watch, I’d feel hopeful.”
“Week after week we’ve been amazed…”
Hit PLAY Below To Listen To Christofer and Malin’s Story
“First of all, I’d like to thank you , Bruce, for your brilliant coaching program and your awesome mentoring. I feel like this coaching program has been a life saver for me and for my relationship with Malin.
Week after week we’ve been amazed at all of the new important things that we’ve learned about ourselves – that we previously had no clue about at all. It’s really changed how we behave towards each other. We are pretty much exact opposites of each other.
Obviously there were lots of misunderstandings since we’re so very different from each other. So it feels really good to get this knowledge – how to behave, how to make each other happy, and I feel we’ve made so much progress so far.
We learned so much in these 8 weeks and we can totally see a difference. We’re happier and we’re excited. I’m not as irritated and we learn new things about each other every day.
Every time my fears pop up I talk to Christopher and everything feels so much better.
I feel comforted and I feel that I’m accepted and that I’m okay. A new feeling has emerged – a feeling that I’ve never felt before in my entire life. It is composed entirely of gratitude – enormous gratitude and a sense of calm. I can fully enjoy just being. Yeah, so I just want to thank you for all of this.”
“Before (this program) we would have
times of more distancing and coming back
times of more distancing and coming back
Hit PLAY Below To Listen To Marisa and Murray’s Story
“Well I definitely feel more unconditionally loved – where it’s not so much of a connection/disconnection cycle. I feel like we have it very consistent at this point – this flow of love, connection, and intimacy.
Before, we would have times of more distancing and coming back and distancing and coming back and we’ve managed to somehow break that cycle and just consistently be there for each other, love each other and that’s obviously a huge breakthrough and I think part of what led us to be able to take the next step with each other as well.”
(towards the end of the program Murray proposed to Marisa – she said YES!)
What Do You Get?
All the training is delivered online,
so you can participate from the privacy of your home.
All you need is an internet connection.
What Else Do You Get?
TOTAL VALUE: $3377
How Much Will All This Cost?
Not a lot… especially when you consider the alternatives. A divorce could cripple you (financially and emotionally), break your heart and rip your family apart.
You’ll spend upwards of $2000 for a few sessions with any half-decent marriage therapist. By the way, conventional marriage therapy has a higher failure rate than success rate.
So when you consider that in only 7 weeks…
you can fix your relationship struggles with or without your partner’s participation…
you’ll realize that I probably should be charging a LOT more for this program.
But I have this dream… a dream of a world where unnecessary divorce is a thing of the past (I’ve been through one myself) and everyone can afford to get help saving their relationship.
And that’s why I’m offering the Coaching Program for less that the price of one session with a half-decent marriage therapist.
“This is the best investment we have ever made as a couple in our 10 years together.
Our marriage has gone from rocky (both of us hurt and resentful) to a deep love that I didn’t think was possible.
Bruce, you have accomplished miracles where marriage counseling, personal therapy and countless books fell short.
We thought we wanted to go back to the way things were when we married but you’ve put us into a place far beyond that.”
“This course is without doubt, the most comprehensive and cost effective investment you could ever make in your relationship.”
Fix your relationship struggles in 7 weeks or less,
even if you’re the only one trying.
even if you’re the only one trying.
Choose a Payment Plan That Best Fits You:
Most Popular1 Easy Payment of$497 (save $34)
3 Small Payments of$177 / mo ($531 total)
THE PROGRAM BEGINS SOON ON September 01, 2018 IN
YOU GET LIFETIME ACCESS TO ALL THIS:
You are protected by my 100% money back guarantee. If you complete the Coaching Program as designed and are not satisfied, simply let me know within 7 days after the final Mentoring Call and I’ll happily refund all your money. You can’t lose.
“We’re only on Week 3, but I have to tell you, this program has saved our marriage.”
PAMELA & MICHAEL COURNOYER
“This program is amazing. I’ve changed. I’m listening, calming and soothing my husband!”
“We were in a rocky place living 2 seperate lives. In 7 weeks we’ve fallen back in love…”
LORNE & VERITY NOBLE
“This program was the best help we could have gotten to bring peace to our relationship.”
“Our 30 year marriage was collapsing. Now, we’re closer & happier than ever. Thank you!”
“This is an AMAZING, program! So superior to marriage counseling. We are married today because of it – thank you Bruce!”
LAURA & TOM DAVIS
What you do next could mean the difference between going through a painful breakup or expensive divorce and starting on the road to a new happy life together, feeling like partners on the same team.
I think you’ll agree with me that that the “happy option” sounds better.
If you’re ready to start feeling safely connected, loved, appreciated, understood and supported, register now before the class fills up. We begin on September 01, 2018.
Don’t Miss Out
Class Size Is
Limited To 24
Class Size Is
Limited To 24
and always fills up fast.
You too could be waking up 7 weeks from now feeling
safely connected, appreciated and happy…
safely connected, appreciated and happy…
I’d understand if you’re thinking this sounds too good to be true.
Yet increased safety, trust, compassion, connection, and understanding are just some of what people report after completing the Coaching Program…
Imagine waking up and your partner is gazing lovingly at you with a smile on their face. You feel secure knowing they have your back and you’re #1 in their world.
You know that when you turn to them for comfort, they’ll respond warmly. When you share what’s on your heart, they listen attentively to you and care.
Arguments don’t turn into fights, but instead, your partner assumes the best of you and makes an effort to understand your side of things.
All this is not only possible, it’s probable. Don’t struggle with love any longer.
Click here to start fixing your relationship struggles now.
Bruce, you've taught me to overcome my 'escape tendencies' and given me the confidence to stay present as we worked through our struggles. Attending this class saved our relationship.
We were not talking... and now we are.
So superior to any books I have read and marriage counseling. I am married today because of my this - thank you Bruce Muzik!
“We’re only on Week 3, and this program has already saved our marriage.”
“Bruce, you’ve accomplished miracles where marriage counseling, personal therapy, a seminar, and countless books fell short. I don’t know if I’ve ever been happier and I don’t think our relationship has ever been in a better place - even when we first met.”
"We had been to counselors, but still struggled to connect. Now we have practical tools that have helped us work on those issues. Bruce, your efforts have helped us immensely!”
“We’ve learned tools that softened the tension between us. Arguments now seem to blow over as we feel like we’re both being heard. We’re even happier than when we first met.”
“Bruce, we thought we wanted to go back to the way things were when we married but this program has put us into a place far beyond that.”
“We are now able to be MUCH more honest with each other, able to talk to each other about REAL things, have big, raw, emotional things come up, and have it bring us closer instead of farther apart.”
“Daily arguments are a thing of the past. We are connected and we have so many communication tools to de-escalate and resolve conflict that it rarely occurs anymore.”
“After 36 years of marriage, we can now view our problems as the "enemy" and have come together, united as a team, to fight those enemies and keep our marriage strong.”
There is no greater gift we could give our new daughter than how strong we feel as a team now. This program is the real deal.
Well worth the money and as a bonus, you get lifetime access to the site.
This course has been mind-blowing. I will never be the same.
I have done a lot of personal development over the years, yet the information I obtained in this 7-week program has changed my life. I will have both my children do it as soon as they are ready to.
What made the biggest difference was learning how to listen, and BE OKAY with whatever she is feeling, without trying to get her to stop feeling it to make myself more comfortable. I can relax!!!
I did the program by myself and at the end, my marriage changed 360 degrees to where I now connect more with my wife and where now we have a much more deeper and open understanding of each other.
I now feel safe and “gotten”. Even if we do trigger each other, we deal with it successfully.
Meet Some Of Our Happy Students
About Your Trainer
Bruce has built a reputation as the guy relationship counselors refer their toughest clients to, to help fix their troubled marriages.
He has more than 20 years of coaching experience and has been called “The Couples Whisperer” (although he says he rarely whispers).
Direct experience working with hundreds of couples each year has confirmed his belief that even “hopeless case” relationships can be repaired.
More than 3 million people have watched his TEDx talk and he has been featured on the BBC and Financial Times to name a few.
“Bruce cares deeply about his clients. He creates a safe and accepting space to explore your relationship.” – Rhonda Darling
Your Questions Answered
The course starts on September 01, 2018 with our Welcome Call.
When you register, you’ll receive immediate access to the Quickstart Videos. If you’ve registered a week or more before we begin the program, these videos will get you started repairing things between you right away.
That’s OK. Each call is recorded and posted in the private member’s area within a few hours.
If you know you’ll miss a call ahead of time, just email me your question and I’ll answer it (or provide a solution) for you on the call. You can then listen to my answer even if you don’t attend the live call. We’ve had many couples through our virtual ‘doors’ that fix their relationship struggles never having attended a single live call, but emailing in their questions instead.
You can also download recordings of each call to your mobile device so you can listen on the move or offline.
The Mentoring Calls are group calls, so you won’t be having private calls with me.
However, you (along with the other participants in the program) can talk directly with me on the Mentoring Calls.
You can ask me questions or get help and solutions to your unique relationship problem. I may work with you alone, or ask your partner to join the conversation too. Participation is completely voluntary.
As I’m working with the other couple’s you’ll learn a ton too. This is because much of the coaching I will give other couples will apply to your situation too.
Everyone on the Mentoring Calls uses only their first name. The calls are audio, not video. This way, you remain anonymous in the group. Anonymity helps create a safe environment where we can all open up and share vulnerably and do deep work.
Whatever reservations you may have about sharing in a group, trust me on this: the group dynamic is the very reason the coaching program works so well.
The Wall Of Love would not be filled with happy students sharing their stories of love and transformation if the group call format didn’t work.
Again, you are not obliged to speak on any of the calls.
In my experience, the couples who do best, put aside 3 – 4 hours over the weekend to watch the videos and complete the assignments. This way, they have time to practice the tools before the Mentoring Calls later the following week.
Your time will be divided roughly as follows:
- 1 hour to watch the Relationship Repair training videos each week
- 2 hours to complete the Implementation Workbook assignments each week
- 1.5 hours for the Relationship Mentoring calls each week
Don’t believe me. Go try out my free information on this site and then decide for yourself.
The Love At First Fight methodology is based on decades of scientific research by the world’s smartest relationship scientists in the fields of:
- attachment theory,
- Emotionally Focused Couples therapy (the couples therapy with the highest success rate in the world),
- developmental psychology,
- and personality theory…
Every technique, skill or strategy you’ll learn has been tested by researchers and by me with the hundreds upon hundreds of couples who have successfully fixed their troubled relationships during the Love At First Fight coaching program.
Unlike a $50 e-book that you’ll probably never read, this program delivers what you need to fix your relationship – education, insight, accountability, mentoring and real support.
Because the program is delivered live and over 7 weeks, it requires you to actually show up consistently to learn, so you’re far more likely to actually fix your relationship struggles.
It works so well because it combines cutting-edge education, with insightful exercises and personal phone mentoring to give you solutions tailored to your specific situation.
Over the last 10 years, I’ve helped thousands of people across the globe from every walk of life. If you’re willing, I can help you and your partner too.
I regularly witness separated (or broken up) couples get back together during the Love At First Fight coaching program.
Obviously, you and your partner are human beings, not robots, so there are no guarantees. In fact, anyone who guarantees that you will reunite with your ex should not be trusted.
However, if you take responsibility for applying what you learn in the program you will massively increase your chances of your ex wanting to come back into your life. Massively.
Yes. You can singlehandedly change your relationship. How can that work? Let’s try a thought experiment together:
Imagine you’re having a romantic dinner with your spouse… What would you have to do or say to make the dinner go downhill fast?
Most people can think of at least one thing immediately. In my relationship, all my partner would have to do is make a comment that my driving is bad. That would be enough to change the tone of our relationship in that moment.
See how easily one person can affect a relationship?
In the same way, you can fix your relationship problems even if your partner won’t participate in the program with you or is obstinate. That’s because a relationship is like a see-saw. As you shift so your partner has to shift in response.
As you begin changing the way you respond in your relationship, so the dynamic between you will change and your partner will begin showing up differently.
Very often an obstinate partner will choose to join you in the program as a result of seeing first hand how you’re responding in a more loving, more secure, and emotionally safe way.
Obviously, I’d rather that your partner did participate with you, so I’ve designed a free training program that will teach you how to get your partner on board participating with you. You’ll get access to it as soon as you register for the Coaching Program.
However, even if they don’t participate, take comfort that your relationship troubles are not your fault or your partner’s fault. They are caused by the relationship dynamic you unconsciously co-create together. You can singlehandedly turn your relationship around, whether or not your partner participates.
Yes, a full 100% money back guarantee. I stand behind my programs 100%.
If you participate fully and complete the program as designed*and you’re not 100% satisfied with it, just send me an email within a week after our final Mentoring Call and I’ll refund all your money. I’ll even eat the credit-card processing fees and we’ll part as friends. I built this and I take responsibility for it.
All I ask is that you actually watch all the videos, complete all the exercises and get help from me on the live Mentoring Calls so I can do everything in my power to help you get the results you want in your marriage or relationship.
If you’re thinking of purchasing the program just to test-drive it, I’d rather you didn’t join at all. You’re not going to get the extraordinary results you want by dipping your toe in the water, right? You have to apply yourself. In order to be eligible for our 100% Money Back Guarantee, you must have completed the program.
Yes, as long as you let us know within a week of your program starting, you can transfer to any coaching program that begins within 6 months of the program that you purchased.
There’s no catch.
The reason I can afford to help you for only $497 is that we’re working in a group. Over the many years that I’ve run this program, I’ve found that this group program often get’s better results than working one-on-one.
I know it seems hard to believe that I’m promising to help you repair your relationship problems for the price of one session with a half-decent couples therapist.
Especially considering they’ll charge you $400/session and advise 12 sessions, which works out to $4800. Not to mention that many couples therapists are not actually trained to work with couples and do more damage than good.
If you suspect that I have a thing against couples therapists and counselors, it’s because I do.
I’ve lost count of the number of my students who have told me that they have seen multiple couples therapists and each just made things worse.
I believe that relationship help should be affordable.
No. I designed the course to be delivered week by week. This way, you get enough time to learn the tools and practice using them in your relationship. The program is a tested system and it’s important to follow the protocol.
Smart people often have a particular weakness of wanting to jump ahead, saying things like, “Yeah yeah, I get it. I want to skip ahead now.” I don’t allow this. The goal is not to rush through the course — it’s to repair your relationship problems and be happy together.
Everything in the course is carefully calibrated to maximize your odds of success.
Trust the system. It works.
I don’t know when I’ll re-open the Love At First Fight coaching program.
Once this upcoming coaching program begins, I devote all of my attention to my students. When I come up for air, I’ll schedule the next one.
The coaching program is designed to fix your relationship problems in 7 weeks or less.
However, many participants report having turned their situation around by week 2 of the program thanks to the communication skills they have learned.
There is no one-size-fits-all time-frame for repairing a relationship. It’s dependent mostly on how willing you are to put into practice what you learn in the program.
Yes, you have lifetime access to everything in the program.
The Relationship Mentoring calls are scheduled at 12:00 pm Pacific Standard Time on a weekday. This call time was chosen to accommodate people from as many different time zones as possible during daylight hours. You’ll receive an email from me with the exact weekday of your call immediately after you register for the program.
Because your relationship or marriage is possibly the most foundational aspect of your life… and because a troubled relationship can negatively impact every area of your life, I highly recommend re-scheduling your work and social life to accommodate the 90-minute Relationship Mentoring calls for the next 7 weeks. It will be worth it.
If you need to speak to your boss to move your lunch break or work hours around for 76 weeks, do it. Most bosses are completely understanding about relationship issues (because a happier you is a more productive you) and will be flexible if you make a request of them.
Worst case scenario: You can’t attend all the live Mentoring Calls and listen to the recordings while sending me your questions to answer on the Mentoring Calls. I regularly witness couples transform their marriages without even attending a single call in person.
If marriage therapy didn’t work for you, you’re not alone. In fact, traditional marriage therapy has the highest failure rate of any therapy in existence – mostly due to the fact that you don’t need to be trained to work with couples to be a marriage therapist. All you need is a license to practice individual therapy.
Working with couples requires a completely different set of skills than working with an individual. And that is one of the big reasons marriage therapy so often fails miserably.
The second reason why approximately 3 in 4 couples who attend marriage therapy report no improvement is because traditional marriage therapy focuses on teaching communication skills.
Couples research clearly shows that poor communication is not the reason your marriage is in trouble.
Poor communication is only a symptom of a greater cause – a lack of emotional safety and emotional connection.
My entire philosophy to relationship repair could be summarized as “Connect first, communicate later”.
In the Love At First Fight coaching program, the first thing you’ll learn on our Welcome Call is how to create emotionally connected moments with your spouse so that you both begin feeling emotionally safe with each other.
Only then will I teach you communication skills.
The reason for our incredibly high success rate with couples in conflict is because our primary focus is on getting the two of you feeling connected and safe.
Once you feel connected and safe, communication tends to take care of itself. Of course, in the Love At First Fight coaching program, you’ll get step-by-step processes for resolving the difficult conversations with your partner.
However, many couples report that once they are connected and feeling safe, they don’t need communication skills to resolve their problems.
Sound too simple to be true?
I completely understand if you’re skeptical.
Do you both know how to speak English? Of course you do.
Did you need communication skills to talk to each other when you first fell in love? Of course not. You just talked and it was wonderful.
Why? Because you were emotionally connected and feeling safe with each other.
Here is the final reason I’ll mention for why the Love At First Fight coaching program is likely to work for you even if marriage therapy didn’t:
Traditional marriage therapy often doesn’t do a good job of healing old hurt and resentment. You might be told to forgive and forget. You might be given token apologies like “I’m sorry, OK! Can we please move on now??? When are you going to get over this?”
None of these are going to inspire forgiveness in you or your partner and you’ll be stuck with your resentment unable to let go of the betrayal of trust…
And if there is one thing that will sabotage your felt sense of emotional safety, it is resentment.
In the coaching program, you’ll learn a scientifically proven step-by-step method for healing old hurt and dissolving resentment. It’s easier than you might think and won’t take months and months of talking about what happened over and over again.
I hope this helps you understand how my approach is different from marriage therapy. If marriage therapy didn’t work for you (or just made things worse), the Love At First Fight coaching program is for you.
If that still doesn’t convince you, remember that the Love At First Fight coaching program comes with a 100% money back guarantee. Try getting your money back from your marriage therapist.
“I’ve spent the cost of my house on therapy over the last few decades and I got further with this short course…” – Sue McKimmie
“This programme has made us more competent as a couple in 7 weeks, than one year of couples therapy.” – Linea Ivalo
“Your course is more effective than couples counseling (and less expensive).” – Pam Sorter
The Implementation Workbooks are digital downloads so you can access them instantly from anywhere in the world and begin fixing your relationship right away. Most participants print theirs out.
If You’re Hanging On By A Thread,
Every day you don’t repair your bond you risk that last thread of connection finally snapping…
Don’t risk the most important relationship in your life.
Your relationship will only take so much tension before one of you finally throws in the towel and leaves… or has an affair… and at that point, fixing things will be a lot more difficult.
If you don’t do something different SOON, you’ll almost certainly be waking up alone before long. And that’s a tragedy because fixing your relationship is not only possible but very likely if you have the right road map to follow.
You have a unique window of opportunity in front of you right now – the opportunity to be happy together.
So, do the sensible thing. Get professional help to heal the bond between you before it’s too late and this window of opportunity slams shut.
Register for the Love At First Fight coaching program now and together we’ll fix your marriage or relationship struggles once and for all.