Bruce,
Your system is simple and incremental, pulling together useful literature findings with actionable implementation. Our homework is very illuminating and positive because it “makes sense.”
To me, your approach is the first that embraces conflict, anger, and vulnerability less as signs of failure in relationships, and more as inevitable.
Conflict seems to be a pivot point for breakthrough. Your approach allows us to work through conflict with compassion and hope.
Most of us just want more connection and are so challenged by life’s heartbreak. We’ve had few tools to deal with childhoods (and marriages) shaped by our taking things personally.
Your system pays tribute to the heartbreak by opening us to honesty and understanding, making friends with what we’ve done to cope. By owning that, we have a choice to grow.
Thank you for all your commitment to making this a new turn for me in my life,
Robert.