Relationship coaching is a highly effective alternative to marriage counseling or online relationship counseling.
Thanks to the internet, you can access the best marriage and relationship help from the privacy of your own home. No driving to a therapist and sitting on a couch, face to face with a stranger.
More importantly, relationship coaching can help with the most common relationship struggles. For example:
If you're struggling to communicate, it's because neither of you feel safe enough to open up to the other. My first agenda is to get you both feeling safe and securely connected again.
Once you feel securely connected, I'll guide you through a series of heart-opening conversations that will heal past hurts, resolve your differences and get you both on the same page.
Next, you need to learn to collaborate as partners on the same team, instead of opponents at war. This phase of our coaching will move you from feeling like two ME's to one WE.
You shouldn’t just hire me. Hire somebody with a proven track record that you respect. If that’s me, great. Let’s get going. If you’re not sure yet, go and use all the free advice on this website and test me out.
My relationship coaching practice has a flawless reputation for fixing marriages and relationships. In the end, that is the only reason you should consider me as your relationship coach.
I’ll only consider you as new clients after a brief telephone chat with you both.
During our chat you can tell me everything you think I need to know about your relationship or marriage and I’ll assess whether or not I can help you.
I’ll answer any questions you have so that you feel 100% comfortable about moving forward with me.
Then, when we choose to work together, we’ll clarify what you want to get out of your coaching experience and schedule our first online relationship counseling session.
If we feel that we’re not a fit, I’ll refund 100% of your payment immediately – no hard feelings and you’ll still have gotten value from our 15 minute chat. So you have nothing to lose.
1. Watch the video above first so that you fully understand what relationship coaching involves.
2. Select a relationship coaching package below that best suits your budget. You’ll then be taken to my 100% secure online payment page.
3. We schedule our 15 minute chat. My assistant will email you to schedule a convenient time. Remember your payment is 100% refundable and after our initial chat, we’ll either choose to work together or I’ll immediately return it to you.
Remember, your romantic relationship is the single most important relationship in your life. When it stops working, everything suffers – work, family, health, peace of mind – everything!
I only ever work with 3 clients at any one time. If you’re seeing this page, it means a spot has just opened up.
It will be taken by someone else before long, so if you’re ready to begin fixing your relationship struggles, make sure you grab it.
If you’re not sure which plan you need, please contact me and I’ll help you choose.
“Bruce, our marriage has gone from very rocky, to a deep love I didn’t think was possible. You accomplished miracles where marriage counseling, therapy, seminars and countless books fell short. This is the best investment we made in our 10 years together.”
“Bruce – I just had to reach out and thank you. An hour on the phone with you saved me years of conventional therapy. Thanks for turning the lights on for me!”
Bruce has built a reputation as the guy relationship counselors refer their toughest clients to, to help fix their troubled marriages.
He has more than 20 years of coaching experience and has been called “The Couples Whisperer” (although he says he rarely whispers).
Direct experience working with hundreds of couples each year has confirmed his belief that even “hopeless case” relationships can be repaired.
His TEDx talk has more than 2 million views and he has been featured on the BBC and Financial Times to name a few.
That all depends on your situation. There’s no one size fits all answer.
If you’ve completed my Love At First Fight coaching program, you may only need one session.
If your relationship is generally in good shape, but you’re struggling to get on the same page, you may only need 4 sessions.
If your relationship feels rocky (i.e unsafe) or you’ve suffered an affair, I recommend at least 8 sessions.
If you’re still unsure about how many sessions you need, please contact me here to arrange a quick (free, no obligation) 15 minute call where I’ll chat with you and assess what you need.
I’ve found that many people feel more comfortable opening up emotionally when they cannot see the person they are talking with.
Being vulnerable face to face with a stranger can feel awkward and scary (especially for men). Working over the phone eliminates this obstacle and can actually speed our work up.
It also has other advantages, like being able to work together even when one of you is travelling. You can be in separate locations and both dial into our private conference line.
I’ve developed some creative ways of using you both as my eyes, when all I have (on the phone) is ears. I’ve noticed absolutely no difference in results working over the phone vs. working in person.
Good question… Here’s a simplified summary of the main differences.
Conventional marriage therapy treats pathologies. The marriage therapist assumes that his/her patients have individual issues that need fixing. The assumption is that once each person is ‘fixed’, they will be able to come together and have a successful relationship. Not surprisingly, conventional marriage therapy has a higher failure rate than success rate.
Online relationship counseling tends to offer advice, rather than therapy. Most counselors have had some level of training, sometimes from a church, religious institution or government organization.
Relationship coaching provides accountability, tools and feedback to the couple about how their behavior affects the other person. It is the newest of the three. Anyone can call themselves a relationship coach without having received any formal training.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a counselor. I’m not a coach. I do work online and I sometimes refer to myself as a counselor or coach because the couples I work with understand what that means.
Here’s how my approach differs from marriage therapy or relationship counseling:
Instead of focusing on fixing you, I focus on your relationship.
I treat your relationship as a system – a living organism made up of two people.
Like any living organism, it has basic survival needs. When these needs are not met, the relationship gets into trouble. When these needs are met, the relationship feels secure and both individuals report feeling close, safe and happy together.
So, I work to help you collaborate to meet the needs of your relationship or marriage (like parents collaborate to meet a child’s needs).
The second way that my approach is different is that I believe that most people don’t need therapy, they need education and training.
Just like you’d be dangerous on the roads if you’d never passed a driving test, so most of us are dangerous to our relationship… not intentionally, but because we never received education and training in how to ‘drive’ our relationship.
Unlike many therapists who get their degree and never study again, I live, breathe and eat relationship research. It’s my passion.
So, if we work together, I’ll end up teaching you some truly life-altering distinctions, tools and strategies for repairing your relationship troubles. Everything you’ll learn is grounded in scientifically proven principles.
This way, once we say goodbye, you won’t need me again because you’ll be able to steer your relationship away from danger yourself.
The final way my approach is different is that I focus on connection first and communication second.
Conventional wisdom says that if you can communicate effectively, you’ll feel connected. But my experience shows that if you give a couple communication skills before they are connected, they just have better tools to fight with. Not a good idea.
So, I focus on getting a couple connected first. In my opinion, this is the biggest reason for my success rate. It’s also why relationship counselors and marriage therapists send their toughest clients to me.
Yes. You and I can work together one on one.
I’d prefer if your partner did participate with you and I can help you get them on board, but you can fix your relationship even if your partner won’t participate or is obstinate.
Take comfort that your relationship troubles are not your fault or your partner’s fault. They are caused by the relationship dynamic you unconsciously co-create together.
A relationship is like a see-saw. When one partner moves, the other has to move too. As you begin changing the way you respond in your relationship, so the dynamic between you will change and your partner will begin showing up in the relationship very differently.
Very often an obstinate partner will choose to join us later as a result of seeing first hand how you’re becoming more loving, more secure, and emotionally safe to be around.