Need to save your marriage or fix a relationship?
Our 7-week online relationship repair program provides step-by-step solutions to fix your relationship troubles so you can start being happy together.
Hi there. I’m Bruce Muzik.
If you’re reading this page, then I imagine that your relationship is no longer the romance it once used to be. Perhaps you’re feeling frustrated, desperate, alone or even afraid.
You’re in the right place. Read this letter all the way to the end and I’ll show you how to fix things between you and your partner before they go from bad to worse.
If you answered YES while reading the list above,
the first thing I want you to know is that…
This is when we fall in love – two ME’s dreaming of the possibility of a WE. We feel excited. Being with our partner makes the world feel brighter. This stage lasts up to 2 years.
The rose tinted glasses are abruptly flung off. We try to change each other in an attempt to get our needs met. We fight - for our partner’s attention or for our independence and freedom. Almost ALL divorces and breakups happen here.
Finally you feel like a WE. You stop trying to change each other and accept (even love) each other's flaws. Your connection feel secure. Commonly, couples in this stage work on a mutually meaningful project together.
Most couples NEVER make it to the Mature Love stage.
They break up in the Power Struggle stage.
If you’re reading this page, your relationship is most likely
stuck in the Power Struggle stage and…
Unless you’re suffering from a deep childhood psychological trauma, you don’t need couples therapy to fix your relationship.
Besides, if you’re anything like me, you don’t want to be sitting on some stuffy therapist’s couch telling your darkest secrets to a stranger who is taking notes about what’s wrong with you. You are not broken.
Not to mention the fact that traditional marriage therapy has an embarrassingly high failure rate – greater than 70%.
I help hundreds of couples each year and here’s what I’ve found works for most couples:
The coaching program is a 7 week home-study
relationship repair program.
It is delivered online and provides step-by-step solutions to your relationship problems so you get on the same page and start being happy together.
It includes 7 relationship mentoring phone calls with me so you’ll get the help you need. The program begins on April 22, 2017
The first session of the Coaching Program is
available the moment you complete your registration.
Every Saturday you’ll receive access to new relationship repair training videos that will teach you critical communication skills, strategies and tools to get you both on the same page.
Your implementation workbook will guide you step-by-step through a series of powerful exercises and conversations that will fix your relationship struggles.
Finally, once a week we’ll jump on a live group mentoring call together. You ask me questions and I provide solutions tailored to your specific relationship situation.
Remember when you first fell in love? You felt close and conversations just flowed effortlessly. You didn’t need communication techniques – you just talked. You were connected. And it was fun.
Feeling closely connected to each other is the holy grail of a happy, fulfilled marriage or relationship.
When your emotional connection gets lost, so does that sense of safety and security that goes hand in hand with it. You begin to feel more like adversaries than team mates.
Quickly, little arguments explode into full blown wars when your connection feel threatened and before you know it, you’re sitting in a lawyers office signing divorce papers.
In Week 1 you’ll RE-CONNECT, open each other’s hearts, and learn how to stay connected.
“It feels already as if we are so much lighter and connected (and I started your program only 2 weeks ago)!”
“Bruce, we were in a really rocky place, living independent lives. This program helped us re-connect on a level I never imagined. In 7 weeks, we have fallen back in love.”
There were no “Communication 101” classes at high school, so just like trying to ride a bicycle blindfolded, we crash and burn when we try to talk about “issues” with our spouse.
If you haven’t been taught communication skills for couples, years of hard earned trust and connection can be destroyed with one thoughtless sentence yelled in anger…
…or one stone cold silence and look of contempt.
Lack of communication skills are the #1 reason my clients cite for their relationship troubles.
Using the tools you learn in Week 2 of the Coaching Program, instead of bickering, arguing or fighting like cat and dog, you’ll resolve your differences and finally feel heard and understood – perhaps for the first time ever.
“In the past we’d both say 'You’re not listening to me!' Now we stop, reflect and get clarity from each other. This program has influenced us so much.”
“The most beneficial tool to us so far has been the communication skill you taught us in week 2. Although we still have a long way to go, we’re definitely loving and connected now. This is HUGE improvement from the pain we were both in just weeks ago.”
Conflict won’t stop until you both feel emotionally safe and secure around each other.
A bit like walking through a minefield, when your relationship feels unsafe and insecure, you can’t fully relax because you sense that your partner might not be there for you.
Always on the lookout for a potential threat, you stop being your usual happy self. Instead, you protect your heart from being rejected, abandoned or engulfed by your partner. After a while, this protective state becomes the norm and you forget to relate as lovers.
In Week 3 you’ll create a safe haven inside your relationship. As your need for security and safety get met, so you begin to relax into feeling comfortable – being ‘happy you’ again.
“After 22 years, we’re truly overjoyed with how connected and powerful we are as a team. I finally feel secure now. This program has been fantastic.”
“Bruce, we thought we wanted to go back to the way things were when we married but this program has put us into a place far beyond that.”
Most couples have one or two unresolved issues that they tiptoe around and just can’t seem to get past. Often, these issues become sensitive topics that spark finger pointing, defensiveness and explosive fights at the mere mention of them.
Left unresolved, these volatile issues trigger fight after fight, destroying your trust, intimacy and emotional connection.
Commonly, one partner withdraws into their shell while the other desperately chases them in an attempt to get them to respond. I call these two archetypes the Hailstorm and the Turtle.
This pattern doesn’t have a happy ending. Eventually both partners withdraw to protect themselves from further hurt, making closeness and intimacy impossible. Then it’s just a matter of time before the relationship ends or one partner has an affair.
In week 4, we dig deep and discover your recurring patterns of conflict and put an end to them once and for all. No more walking on eggshells around each other.
You’ll have conversations with your partner that will stop the hurt and the destructive cycle of withdrawing and chasing.
“After 4 weeks of the program, we are loving each other and daily arguments are a thing of the past. We are connected and we have so many communication tools to de-escalate and resolve conflict that it rarely occurs anymore. We now live in peace and harmony and can be the loving songwriting team we need to be.”
“Since finishing the course, we have had very little conflict, and any conflict we have had has been resolved quickly and easily.”
“After 36 years of marriage, we can now view our problems as the "enemy" and have come together, united as a team, to fight those enemies and keep our marriage strong.”
Everyone is different… and that’s a good thing in a relationship.
You’ve probably heard that opposites attract, right?
It’s true. Like opposite poles of a magnet, we tend to be most attracted to someone with opposite personality traits to us. Some of these traits complement you, but others can drive you crazy! Are you nodding yet?
If your partner doesn’t understand and appreciate how you’re different, these differences can lead to hurtful fights that leave you feeling misunderstood, judged and alone.
In Week 5, you’ll both take three illuminating personality quizzes designed to give you insight into yourself and your partner that you’ll wish you’d known years ago.
Finally your partner will understand and appreciate the way you are and stop trying to change you.
“I am more optimistic (about our relationship) than ever despite having confirmed we are completely opposite.”
“I’m no longer afraid of our differences and we’re both very ready to make this our last relationship.”
“We both feel empowered to move past our differences that used to get in the way of real connection.”
Allowing your partner to know you intimately is the entry fee to a rich emotional life, passionate sex life and deeply satisfying relationship.
In practice, actually being that vulnerable requires that you risk rejection or abandonment.
And that is terrifying for most of us.
So we hide our authentic selves from each other to avoid taking that risk.
Yet if we don’t take that risk, we’ll never be known deeply, never be able to fully express ourselves and never feel fully alive.
In week 6 you’ll break through the biggest barrier to intimacy – being vulnerable. If you struggle to share your feelings with your partner, you’ll learn how to access your inner landscape and share it in a way that skyrockets trust and safety and bonds you emotionally like super-glue.
“I was unable to feel or to express love to my wife. I hadn't shed a tear in our 8 year relationship. Thanks to this program, I am more open and emotional, with no fear to share myself with my wife. I see now that if I can share everything with her, we will create a safer and happy life together! Thank you Bruce.”
“We are now able to be MUCH more honest with each other, able to talk to each other about REAL things, have big, raw, emotional things come up, and have it bring us closer instead of farther apart.”
While it’s common for sexual passion to simmer down a little over the years, if your sex life has become boring or lifeless, the “Sex, Passion & Partnership” videos in the Video Vault are for you.
You’ll discover exactly how to revive an uninspiring sex life and create powerful sexual chemistry with your partner… on demand.
Now that issues of connection and safety are no longer an issue in your relationship, we’ll then look at the next important steps your relationship must take. Finally, we’ll wrap up the program sharing our success stories with each other on the final Relationship Repair call.
This call is always fun because by the time you’ve gotten this far is the program, your relationship feels safer, more loving, and your spouse feels like a team mate.
“We’re more intimate, our sex has improved, our love and appreciation is deeper… and friends keep telling us that we are ‘such a great couple’.”
“Bruce, we are closer than ever before. I feel safe and heard by Michel for the first time in all the time we’ve known each other. The program opened up our communication, taught us how to trust and support one another and finally got us on the same team.”
“Bruce, we are now more connected and committed than ever. Here’s a testimonial: If you need a path to follow when you’ve lost your way with the love of your life, this is for you!”
“We were stuck in a cycle of power struggles, not being kind to each other. Since the course we have very little conflict. We are kind and more loving and romantic too!”
“When we started the program I felt it was my last chance for my marriage.
I was seeing a counselor and he encouraged me to join this program, but I was ready for a divorce. I was not feeling loved. In my mind we were just two room mates. He is the sweetest guy in the world but there was no romance. I was planning to give him the (divorce) papers to sign.
I did the course anyway and in Week 2 we had an Ah-Ha moment…
Romario finally understands how to connect with my heart. He said the scales fell off of his eyes and he could see how he was not loving me. Since that day he’s starting to love me full force.
Since then I’ve felt so loved and I fell in love with him again. I just want to be together with him for the rest of my life.
Basically you saved our marriage and we’re in the honeymoon again. It is amazing. I don’t have the words to express how happy I am in my marriage right now.
I learned so much from the coaching calls with others. I like the format of the program and the exercises. It really helped us understand each other and to connect deeper. Thank you very much from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate everything that you did for us.”
“We were engaged, but had a huge fight. He (my fiance) told me that he wanted me to move out and that our relationship was over.
BRUCE: So you went from being broken up when you started the program to now he’s taking you out to dinner on your birthday and he’s sharing vulnerable things he hadn’t shared before and you guys are learning to connect slowly and securely again.
Yes I feel like that’s fair. At the birthday dinner he said, “I don’t want to lose you to somebody else.”
We’re in a very good spot right now. We went out to a movie yesterday. We had dinner. He took me out for my birthday as well and we talked a lot and I feel like me opening up has really changed the way that he has opened up and I give him space and I know what he needs because he’s a turtle and I’m the hail-storm.
It’s a huge improvement from where we were. So thank you so much. I feel so much better. I’ve been through a lot but every time I would listen to your videos or I’d watch, I’d feel hopeful.”
“First of all, I’d like to thank you , Bruce, for your brilliant coaching program and your awesome mentoring. I feel like this coaching program has been a life saver for me and for my relationship with Malin.
Week after week we’ve been amazed at all of the new important things that we’ve learned about ourselves – that we previously had no clue about at all. It’s really changed how we behave towards each other. We are pretty much exact opposites of each other.
Obviously there were lots of misunderstandings since we’re so very different from each other. So it feels really good to get this knowledge – how to behave, how to make each other happy, and I feel we’ve made so much progress so far.
We learned so much in these 8 weeks and we can totally see a difference. We’re happier and we’re excited. I’m not as irritated and we learn new things about each other every day.
Every time my fears pop up I talk to Christopher and everything feels so much better.
I feel comforted and I feel that I’m accepted and that I’m okay. A new feeling has emerged – a feeling that I’ve never felt before in my entire life. It is composed entirely of gratitude – enormous gratitude and a sense of calm. I can fully enjoy just being. Yeah, so I just want to thank you for all of this.”
“Well I definitely feel more unconditionally loved – where it’s not so much of a connection/disconnection cycle. I feel like we have it very consistent at this point – this flow of love, connection, and intimacy.
Before, we would have times of more distancing and coming back and distancing and coming back and we’ve managed to somehow break that cycle and just consistently be there for each other, love each other and that’s obviously a huge breakthrough and I think part of what led us to be able to take the next step with each other as well.”
(towards the end of the program Murray proposed to Marisa – she said YES!)
All the training is delivered online,
so you can participate from the privacy of your home.
All you need is an internet connection.
Not a lot… especially when you consider the alternatives. A divorce could cripple you (financially and emotionally), break your heart and rip your family apart.
You’ll spend upwards of $2000 for a few sessions with any half-decent marriage therapist. By the way, conventional marriage therapy has a higher failure rate than success rate.
So when you consider that in only 7 weeks…
you’ll realize that I probably should be charging a LOT more for this program.
But I have this dream… a dream of a world where unnecessary divorce is a thing of the past (I’ve been through one myself) and everyone can afford to get help saving their relationship.
And that’s why I’m offering the Coaching Program for less that the price of one session with a half-decent marriage therapist.
“This is the best investment we have ever made as a couple in our 10 years together.
Our marriage has gone from rocky (both of us hurt and resentful) to a deep love that I didn’t think was possible.
Bruce, you have accomplished miracles where marriage counseling, personal therapy and countless books fell short.
We thought we wanted to go back to the way things were when we married but you’ve put us into a place far beyond that.”
“This course is without doubt, the most comprehensive and cost effective investment you could ever make in your relationship.”
You are protected by my 100% money back guarantee. If you participate in and complete the Coaching Program and are not 100% satisfied, simply let me know within 7 days of the final coaching call and I’ll happily refund all your money. You can’t lose.
“We’re only on Week 3, but I have to tell you, this program has saved our marriage.”
PAMELA & MICHAEL COURNOYER
“This program is amazing. I’ve changed. I’m listening, calming and soothing my husband!”
“We were in a rocky place living 2 seperate lives. In 7 weeks we’ve fallen back in love…”
LORNE & VERITY NOBLE
“This program was the best help we could have gotten to bring peace to our relationship.”
“Our 30 year marriage was collapsing. Now, we’re closer & happier than ever. Thank you!”
“This is an AMAZING, program! So superior to marriage counseling. We are married today because of it – thank you Bruce!”
LAURA & TOM DAVIS
What you do next could mean the difference between going through a painful breakup or expensive divorce and starting on the road to a new happy life together, feeling like partners on the same team.
I think you’ll agree with me that that the “happy option” sounds better.
If you’re ready to start feeling safely connected, loved, appreciated, understood and supported, register now before the class fills up. We begin on April 22, 2017.
and always fills up fast.
I’d understand if you’re thinking this sounds too good to be true.
Yet increased safety, trust, compassion, connection and understanding are just some of what people report after completing the Coaching Program…
Imagine waking up and your partner is gazing lovingly at you with a smile on their face. You feel secure knowing they have your back and you’re #1 in their world.
You know that when you turn to them for comfort, they’ll respond warmly. When you share what’s on your heart, they listen attentively to you and care.
Arguments don’t turn into fights, but instead your partner assumes the best of you and makes an effort to understand your side of things.
All this is not only possible, it’s probable. Don’t struggle with love any longer.
Click here to start fixing your relationship struggles now.
Bruce has built a reputation as the guy relationship counselors refer their toughest clients to, to help fix their troubled marriages.
He has more than 20 years of coaching experience and has been called “The Couples Whisperer” (although he says he rarely whispers).
Direct experience working with hundreds of couples each year has confirmed his belief that even “hopeless case” relationships can be repaired.
His TEDx talk has more than 2 million views and he has been featured on the BBC and Financial Times to name a few.
Yes, a full 100% money back guarantee. If you participate in and complete the program as designed and you’re not 100% satisfied with it for ANY reason, just send me an email within a week of completing it and I’ll refund your registration in full. All I ask is that you actually participate in the program as it is designed (i.e. Watch all the videos, complete all the exercises and get coaching from me on the coaching calls) so I can do everything in my power to help you and make sure that you get the results you want in your marriage or relationship.
Yes. You can singlehandedly change your relationship. How can that work? Let’s try a thought experiment together:
Imagine you’re having a romantic dinner with your spouse… What would you have to do or say to make the dinner go downhill fast?
Most people can think of at least one thing immediately. In my relationship, all my partner would have to do is comment about my driving being bad. That would be enough to change the tone of our relationship in that moment.
See how easily one person can affect a relationship?
In the same way, you can fix your relationship problems even if your partner won’t participate in the program with you or is obstinate. That’s because a relationship is like a see-saw. As you shift so your partner has to shift in response.
As you begin changing the way you respond in your relationship, so the dynamic between you will change and your partner will begin showing up differently.
Very often an obstinate partner will choose to join you in the program as a result of seeing first hand how you’re responding in a more loving, more secure, and emotionally safe way.
Obviously, I’d rather that your partner did participate with you, so I’ve designed a free training program that will teach you how to get your partner on board participating with you. You’ll get access to it as soon as you register for the Coaching Program.
However, even if they don’t participate, take comfort that your relationship troubles are not your fault or your partner’s fault. They are caused by the relationship dynamic you unconsciously co-create together. You can singlehandedly turn your relationship around, whether or not your partner participates.
If marriage therapy didn’t work for you, you’re not alone. In fact, traditional marriage therapy has the highest failure rate of any therapy in existence – mostly due to the fact that you don’t need to be trained to work with couples to be a marriage therapist. All you need is a license to practice individual therapy.
Working with couples requires a completely different set of skills to working with an individual. And that is one of the big reasons marriage therapy so often fails miserably.
The second reason why approximately 3 in 4 couples who attend marriage therapy report no improvement is because traditional marriage therapy focuses on teaching communication skills.
Couples research clearly shows that poor communication is not the reason your marriage is in trouble.
Poor communication is only a symptom of a greater cause – a lack of emotional safety and emotional connection.
My entire philosophy to relationship repair could be summarized as “Connect first, communicate later”.
In the Love At First Fight coaching program, the first thing you’ll learn on our Welcome Call is how to create emotionally connected moments with your spouse so that you both begin feeling emotionally safe with each other.
Only then will I teach you communication skills.
The reason for our incredibly high success rate with couples in conflict is because our primary focus is on getting the two of you feeling connected and safe.
Once you feel connected and safe, communication tends to take care of itself. Of course, in the Love At First Fight coaching program you’ll get step-by-step processes for resolving the difficult conversations with your partner.
However, many couples report that once they are connected and feeling safe, they don’t need communication skills to resolve their problems.
Sound too simple to be true?
I completely understand if you’re skeptical.
Do you both know how to speak English? Of course you do.
Did you need communication skills to talk to each other when you first fell in love? Of course not. You just talked and it was wonderful.
Why? Because you were emotionally connected and feeling safe with each other.
Here is the final reason I’ll mention for why the Love At First Fight coaching program is likely to work for you even if marriage therapy didn’t:
Traditional marriage therapy often doesn’t do a good job of healing old hurt and resentment. You might be told to forgive and forget. You might be given token apologies like “I’m sorry, OK! Can we please move on now??? When are you going to get over this?”
None of these are going to inspire forgiveness in you or your partner and you’ll be stuck with your resentment unable to let go of the betrayal of trust…
And if there is one thing that will sabotage your felt sense of emotional safety, it is resentment.
In the coaching program, you’ll learn a scientifically proven step-by-step method for healing old hurt and dissolving resentment. It’s easier than you might think and won’t take months and months of talking about what happened over and over again.
I hope this helps you understand how my approach is different from marriage therapy. If marriage therapy didn’t work for you (or just made things worse), the Love At First Fight coaching program is for you.
If that still doesn’t convince you, remember that the Love At First Fight coaching program comes with a 100% money back guarantee. Try getting your money back from your marriage therapist.
I regularly witness separated (or broken up) couples get back together during the Love At First Fight coaching program. Obviously we are dealing with human beings here, not robots, so there are no guarantees. However, if you take responsibility for applying what you learn in the program you will massively increase your chances of your ex wanting to return to your relationship. Massively.
The program is designed to fix your relationship struggles in 7 weeks or less. Many participants report having saved their marriage by WEEK 2 thanks to the communication skills they have learned. However, there is no standard time. It’s dependent mostly on you and how willing you are to put into practice what you learn in the program.
Yes, you have lifetime access to everything in the program.
That’s OK. Each call is recorded and posted in the private members area within a few hours.
If you know you’ll miss a call ahead of time, just email me your question and I’ll answer it (or provide a solution) for you on the call. You can then listen to my answer even if you don’t attend the live call. We’ve had many couples though our virtual ‘doors’ that fix their relationship struggles never having attended a single live call, but emailing in their questions instead.
You can also download recordings of each call to your mobile device so you can listen on the move or offline.
The Relationship Mentoring calls are scheduled at 12:00pm Pacific Standard Time on a weekday. This call time was chosen to accommodate people from as many different time zones as possible during daylight hours. You’ll receive the exact weekday of your call immediately after you register above.
Because your relationship or marriage is possibly the most foundational aspect of your life… and because a troubled relationship can negatively impact every area of your life, I highly recommend re-scheduling your work and social life to accommodate the 90 minute Relationship Mentoring calls for the next 7 weeks. It will be worth it.
I recommend that you put aside 3 to 4 hours each week to get the most out of the program. Some couples set aside a chunk of time on the weekend, while others divide and conquer doing a little each day.
Your time will be divided roughly as follows:
The Implementation Workbooks are digital downloads so you can access them instantly from anywhere in the world and begin fixing your relationship right away. Most participants print theirs out.
We don’t offer discounts. However, we do offer a monthly payment plan that puts the program well within anyone’s reach – 3 monthly payments of $177. Between the two of you, that’s less than the price of a Starbucks coffee each day. Would you be willing to have one less coffee a day (for 3 months) if it would fix your relationship troubles?
Don’t believe me. Go try out my free information on this site and then decide for yourself.
The Love At First Fight methodology is based on decades of scientific research into what actually works to save relationships and make love last. Every technique, skill or strategy you’ll learn has been tested by researchers and with the hundreds of couples who have successfully fixed their troubled relationships during the Love At First Fight coaching program.
Unlike a $50 e-book that you’ll probably never read, this program delivers what you need to fix your relationship – education, insight, accountability, mentoring and real support.
Because the program is delivered live and over 7 weeks, it requires you to actually show up consistently to learn, so you’re far more likely to actually fix your relationship struggles.
It works so well because it combines cutting edge education, with insightful exercises and live personal phone mentoring to give you solutions tailored to your specific situation.
Over the last 10 years, I’ve helped thousands of people across the globe from every walk of life. If you’re willing, I can help you.
Don’t risk the most important relationship in your life.
Your relationship will only take so much tension before one of you finally throws in the towel and leaves… or has an affair… and at that point, fixing things will be a lot more difficult.
If you don’t do something different SOON, you’ll almost certainly be waking up alone before long. And that’s a tragedy, because fixing your relationship is not only possible, but very likely if you have the right road map to follow.
You have a unique window if opportunity in front of you right now – the opportunity to be happy together.
So, do the sensible thing. Get professional help to heal the bond between you before it’s too late and this window of opportunity slams shut.
Register for the Love At First Fight coaching program now and together we’ll fix your marriage or relationship struggles once and for all.