Hey there, I’m Bruce Muzik.
I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself, and answer the question probably already in your mind: “Who is this so-called relationship expert and can he actually help me?”
If you’re anything like me, you also cringe reading someone’s ABOUT ME page written in 3rd person masquerading as some professionally written bio, but clearly written by themselves.
So, instead of boring you with “Bruce has done this and that and is so great… blah blah blah…” I thought I’d write something a little more personal.
At heart, I’m a romantic and have always been deeply fascinated with human behavior…
…particularly the bond that occurs between people in committed relationships.
“An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.” – Niels Bohr, Danish physicist & Nobel prize winner.
I won’t bore you with the details, but the woman I was seeing suddenly broke up with me – for the 4rd time…
…and I had NO IDEA what to do to stop the breakup from happening.
I knew in my heart that if we could just figure out our differences we had a chance at happiness.
Despite having coached and helped thousands of people in my personal development seminars around the world, I had no idea where to begin to repair my relationship. The only thing I had in my favor was sheer determination.
I invested the next 18 months studying a pile of text books, attending seminars from relationship experts, working with the best relationship therapist I could find – even getting certified as a relationship coach.
Our biggest “breakthrough” came when I reached out to a friend – a top marriage therapist – for help.
My marriage therapist friend taught us some techniques that REALLY didn’t “make sense”, but sure worked to connect us.
Instead of teaching us communication techniques, my therapist friend helped us communicate in ways that made us feel SAFE, UNDERSTOOD and CONNECTED.
…during our initial couples therapy sessions with her, my partner actually opened up and began talking about her real, vulnerable feelings.
In the past, these sensitive topics were “off-limits” and would have ended in a fight (with her retreating into her shell and me desperately chasing her).
Within minutes, we felt closer and in a matter of hours we were resolving issues that had sabotaged our connection for years.
When one of us began pointing a finger at the other, we learned to gently guide the conversation back on track.
When one of us was scared of talking about sensitive issues for fear of being rejected or judged, we learned how to create emotional safety.
As we unraveled our conflict, we discovered that most of our disagreements and perceived differences were based upon misunderstandings. These misunderstandings came falling down like a house of cards when we connected the dots between our hearts.
In fact, direct experience working with hundreds of couples has confirmed my belief that anything that is not love, is just a misunderstanding.
To make a long story short, we made quick progress and ultimately saved our relationship.
I began using what I’d learned to help my friends with their marriages. It was such rewarding work that soon I shut my seminar business and started training to help couples full time.
I took the concepts I had learned fixing my own relationship problems, field-tested them, refined the raw ideas further and Love At First Fight was born.
Each year, Love At First Fight helps hundreds of couples fix their rocky relationships and save their troubled marriages. Relationship therapists recommend our programs to their toughest clients and I’m proud of our success rate.
In case you’re wondering, I’m no longer with that partner. I was a lot younger. She wanted kids, I didn’t. She wanted to settle in her home country and I wanted to travel the world. We ended our relationship lovingly and it has since evolved into a close friendship which we both treasure to this day.
It’s not my style to brag a lot or tell stories, but the fact is that I’m a really well-trained communicator, professional speaker and much sought after coach…
…yet none of that experience prepared me for what lay ahead of me in the Power Struggle stage of that relationship.
Quite frankly, I don’t know how any regular person can be expected to survive it without having learned how to create emotional safety, resolve conflict and communicate in a way that deepens the bond between you.
Nobody taught us this stuff at growing up, so many of us go through life falling in love only to get our hearts broken when our relationship (or marriage) hits rock bottom and doesn’t work out.
I have now come to believe something that I think is very important:
If you don’t know how to:
This is not an easy thing to explain to a couple still in the Romance Stage…
They don’t “get it” because they believe the Power Struggle won’t happen to them, but I’ll bet that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.
However, there is hope. Once you learn how to reconnect emotionally, resolve recurring conflicts and communicate in a way that creates a deep bond between you, you will leave the Power Struggle stage of your relationship behind you.
As that happens, the two of you are going to become so close and intimately connected that other people will be asking you if you’re on honeymoon, because you’ll be radiating appreciation and gratitude for each other.
As you have probably noticed, there are plenty of ‘gurus’ running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers.
Well, I’m not a guru and unfortunately for you, I don’t have ALL the answers.
I’m a pretty regular guy, but I do believe that I have SOME of the important answers (and I think the answers I have are almost impossible to figure out on your own).
The question you’re probably asking is “Why should I believe what this relationship expert guy is saying?”.
And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN’T just blindly believe me. You’re smarter than that.
Unlike other relationship experts, I recommend that you approach my relationship advice with a healthy skepticism, and from a results only perspective.
I want you to use what you learn with me and surprise yourself with how quickly you can feel connected again, resolve arguments and be happy together.
Otherwise, I’ll give you a full refund… no questions asked. I’m serious.
Like you, I’m not interested in wasting my time with things that don’t work. I like solutions that get results – fast. Only after you’ve seen that this stuff is REAL do I want you to “believe” me.
~ Bruce Muzik (Founder of Love At First Fight)
P.S. I’m human too, so I have my flaws. But still, I know my programs for couples are the best in the world, and I stand behind them 100%. I pride myself on creating programs that are so useful, that you’d recommend them to your friends without thinking twice.
P.P.S. In case you’re interested, I don’t spend all my time studying psychology and working with couples. I’m also a passionate kite surfer, guitarist and motorcycle adventurer. I’m in a long-term committed relationship with an incredible woman and her two kids (oh, the irony). You can watch my TEDx talk about my journey here.