Relationship Repair Expert, Bruce Muzik

Bruce Muzik

Hey there, I’m Bruce Muzik.

I wanted to take a minute and introduce myself, and answer the question you’re probably already thinking: “Who is this so-called relationship repair expert and can he actually help me?”

If you’re anything like me, you also cringe reading someone’s ABOUT ME page written in 3rd person masquerading as some professionally written bio, but clearly written by themselves.

So, instead of boring you with “Bruce has done this and that and is so great… blah blah blah…” I thought I’d write something a little more personal.

At heart, I’m a romantic and have always been deeply fascinated with human behavior…

…particularly the bond that occurs between people in committed relationships.

“An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.” – Niels Bohr, Danish physicist & Nobel prize winner.

A long time ago, life led me down a path where I was forced to figure out how to make my romantic relationships work.

I won’t bore you with the details, but the woman I was seeing suddenly broke up with me – for the 4rd time…

Fighting couple…and I had NO IDEA what to do to stop the breakup from happening.

I knew in my heart that if we could just figure out our differences we had a chance at happiness.

Despite having coached and helped thousands of people in my personal development seminars around the world, I had no idea where to begin to repair my relationship. The only thing I had in my favor was sheer determination.

Bruce Muzik is a RCI certified relationship coach for couplesI invested the next 18 months studying a pile of text books, attending seminars from relationship experts, working with the best relationship therapist I could find – even getting certified as a relationship coach.

My Light Bulb Moment

I had a BIG “Aha!” moment when I discovered that within 2 years of falling in love, most relationships go though a Power Struggle stage.

During this tense time, both partners start feeling disconnected from each other and a feeling of constant tension and “fuzzy” communication creeps into the relationship.

Most couples don’t make it through the Power Struggle. They break up or stay stuck in it – not knowing what to do, not unhappy enough to leave, yet not fulfilled enough to be happy.

Our biggest “breakthrough” came when I reached out to a friend – a top marriage therapist – for help.

My marriage therapist friend taught us some techniques that REALLY didn’t “make sense”, but sure worked to connect us.

Instead of teaching us communication techniques, my therapist friend helped us feel SAFE, UNDERSTOOD and CONNECTED first.

To my complete surprise…

…during our initial couples therapy sessions with her, my partner actually began opening up and talking about her real, vulnerable feelings for the first time.

In the past, sensitive topics were “off-limits” and would have ended in a fight (with her retreating into her shell and me desperately chasing her).

Within minutes though, we felt closer. In a matter of hours, we were resolving issues that had sabotaged our connection for years.

When one of us began pointing a finger at the other, we learned to gently guide the conversation back on track.

When one of us was scared of talking about sensitive issues for fear of being rejected or judged, we learned how to create emotional safety.

As we unraveled our conflict, we discovered that most of our disagreements and perceived differences were based upon misunderstandings. These misunderstandings came falling down like a house of cards when we connected the dots between our hearts.

In fact, direct experience working with hundreds of couples has confirmed my belief that “anything that is not love, is just a misunderstanding.”

To make a long story short, we made quick progress and ultimately saved our relationship.

I began using what I’d learned to help my friends with their marriages. It was such rewarding work that soon I shut my seminar business and started training to help couples full time.

I took the concepts I had learned fixing my own relationship problems, field-tested them, refined the raw ideas further and Love At First Fight was born.

Each year, Love At First Fight helps hundreds of couples fix their rocky relationships and save their troubled marriages. Relationship therapists recommend our programs to their toughest clients and I’m proud of our success rate.

In case you’re wondering, I’m no longer with that partner. I was a lot younger then. She wanted kids, I didn’t. She wanted to settle in her home country and I wanted to travel the world. We ended our relationship lovingly and it has since evolved into a close friendship which we both treasure to this day.

It’s not my style to brag a lot or tell stories, but the fact is that I’m a really well-trained communicator, professional speaker and much sought after coach…

…yet none of that experience prepared me for what lay ahead of me in the Power Struggle stage of that relationship.

Quite frankly, I don’t know how any regular person can be expected to survive it without having learned how to create emotional safety, resolve conflict and communicate in a way that deepens the bond between you.

The odds of living happily together are not stacked in our favor.

Nobody taught us this stuff at growing up, so many of us go through life falling in love only to get our hearts broken when our relationship (or marriage) hits rock bottom and doesn’t work out.

The fact of the matter is that 51% of marriages don’t survive the Power Struggle stage – not to mention the much higher percentage of unmarried couples that don’t make it.

I have now come to believe something that I think is very important:

If you don’t know how to:

  • communicate safely,
  • resolve your arguments and stop your recurring fights,
  • stay emotionally connected to each other
  • restore broken trust,
  • make your partner feel safe enough to open up,
  • inspire sexual passion in your partner and,
  • appreciate your differences…
…then you’re probably going to walk through life wondering why so few of your relationships have a happy ending.

This is not an easy thing to explain to a couple still in the Romance Stage…

They don’t “get it” because they believe the Power Struggle won’t happen to them, but I’ll bet that you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about.

However, there is hope. Once you learn how to reconnect emotionally, resolve recurring conflicts and communicate in a way that creates a deep bond between you, you will leave the Power Struggle stage of your relationship behind you.

As that happens, the two of you are going to become so close and intimately connected that other people will be asking you if you’re on honeymoon, because you’ll be radiating appreciation and gratitude for each other.

Why should you believe that I can help you?

As you have probably noticed, there are plenty of ‘gurus’ running around trying to convince you that they have all the answers.

Well, I’m not a guru and unfortunately for you, I don’t have ALL the answers.

I’m a pretty regular guy, but I do believe that I have SOME of the important answers (and I think the answers I have are almost impossible to figure out on your own).

The question you’re probably asking is “Why should I believe what this relationship expert guy is saying?”.

And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN’T just blindly believe me. You’re smarter than that.

Unlike other relationship experts, I recommend that you approach my relationship advice with a healthy skepticism, and from a results only perspective.

I want you to use what you learn with me and surprise yourself with how quickly you can feel connected again, resolve arguments and be happy together.

Otherwise, I’ll give you a full refund… no questions asked. I’m serious.

Like you, I’m not interested in wasting my time with things that don’t work. I like solutions that get results – fast. Only after you’ve seen that this stuff is REAL, do I want you to “believe” me.

~ Bruce Muzik (Founder of Love At First Fight)

P.S. I’m human too, so I have my flaws. But still, I know my programs for couples are the best in the world, and I stand behind them 100%. I pride myself on creating programs that are so useful, that you’d recommend them to your friends without thinking twice.

P.P.S. In case you’re interested, I don’t spend all my time studying psychology and working with couples. I’m also a passionate kite surfer, guitarist and motorcycle adventurer. I’m in a long-term committed relationship with an incredible woman and her two kids (oh, the irony). You can watch my TEDx talk about my journey here.

"Our marriage is transforming right before our eyes!"

We’re only in our 3rd week, but this has already saved our marriage.“Bruce, I’m a communications expert myself (by profession), and you’ve just taught me how to listen!

Our marriage is transforming right before our eyes!

Thank you for sharing this invaluable information, you are a delight to work with, I love how you make it safe to share.

We’re only on Week 3, but I have to tell you, your program has saved our marriage.”

Pamela Cournoyer

"We have fallen back in love"

Verity and Lorne fell back in love again“I just wanted to write you an email and say how life changing this experience has been for us.

We were in a really rocky place…

“We have fallen back in love, we argue less, we’re more understanding and most importantly, we can see how to succeed for the long-term.

I wanted to find out if you had some kind of referral system so that I can put them in touch with you or send them a link to the next course?

Huge congratulations on producing such a fantastic curriculum, one that truly works.”

Verity Noble

“Love At First Fight called to us from the moment we heard about it. "

dale-burrell-60“Love At First Fight called to us from the moment we heard about it. Everyone said that relationships had to be worked at, but we still thought that after 11 years married things should be a bit easier.

The course exceeded expectations with great quality videos presenting new distinction after new distinction, well designed exercises to translate the theory into practice and excellent coaching calls.

We gained immediate benefit within the first weeks as we discovered so many new facets of our relationship which we were unaware of.

And we gained tools which we can use any time we have the need. Thanks Bruce, much appreciated.”

Dale Burrell

"I feel secure now."

Alexa and her husband feel like a team now.“We’re truly overjoyed with how much more connected and powerful we are as both a team and couple because of Love at First Fight and your coaching.

I feel secure now. It’s been fantastic.
Thank you again, and we miss you.”

Alexa Clark

"countless books fell short.”

Jay and Mandi accomplished miracles in their marriage.“Bruce, you’ve accomplished miracles where marriage counseling, personal therapy, a seminar, and countless books fell short.”

Mandi Ellefson

"We are even happier than when we were first together.”

“Bruce, we are very impressed by the course. Your material is VERY helpful.

We learned some real tools that helped us to soften the tension and power struggles between us.

I feel way more supported and arguments seem to blow over because we feel like we’re both being heard, so we don’t have to raise the volume anymore, which is REALLY nice.

Now, we understand each other better every time we have a conflict.
We just keep learning about each other and evolving together. We are even happier than when we were first together.”

Gerry Thorpe

“I’m amazed at how deep our relationship has become"

Denise's relationship has deepened.“I’m amazed at how deep our relationship has become considering that we’re both 60 years old and and have only been together 3 months.

We are so very grateful for you fighting so hard for our success, it worked!”

Denise Olsen

"We’d both say ‘You’re not listening to me!'"

Michael feel heard in his marriage“In the past we’d both say ‘You’re not listening to me!

Now we find ourselves stopping, reflecting and getting clarity from each other.

Bruce, you’ve influenced us so much that we’ve referred you to family, relatives and friends.”

Michael Cournoyer

"We were stuck in a cycle of power struggles ..."

Anna now has very little conflict in her relationship“This program really has changed our relationship.

We were stuck in a cycle of power struggles and very independent, which meant we were not always kind or compassionate towards each other.

The fantastic videos, along with the excellent weekly exercises allowed us gently and genuinely to re look at ourselves and our relationship and to create a new way of being with each other, in only 7 weeks.

The weekly conference calls were a great addition too, with lots of lovely participants sharing from their hearts.

Since finishing the course, we have had very little conflict, and any conflict we have had has been resolved quickly and easily. We are kinder to each other, more loving and are experimenting with being more romantic too!

We now do fun things together on the weekend, instead of complaining that we don’t have anything in common! And we’ve just celebrated our 12th anniversary, so it was a wonderful anniversary gift to ourselves.”

Anna Burns

"I am married today because of my participation"

laura-tom-davis-60“This is an amazing, AMAZING, program!

The information presented here needs to be shared with everyone and anyone that is involved in any type of a relationship!

If two people are committed to work through the program, I cannot imagine how their marriage could fail!

So superior to any books I have read and tried to apply, and marriage counseling. I am married today because of my participation – thank you Bruce Muzik!”

Laura Davis

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